I have pet peeve after pet peeve that are minor annoyances, but THIS. This pet peeve really chaps my butt.
Picture this. You’re in traffic. There’s a dude wanting to get into your lane from the next lane over. His blinker has been on for a while, but none of the cars in front of you will slow down enough to let him in.
You decide to let him merge in front of you. He comes on in and…nothing. No hand wave, no smile in the side view mirror, no acknowledgement whatsoever.
In the two plus years I’ve lived in San Diego, I can seriously count the number of times someone has waved “thank you” on one hand.
Ok, you’re probably rolling your eyes at this moment, thinking, “Get a grip lady.”
But look at it this way. You’re walking out of the mall, a restaurant, etc., and you courteously hold the door open for a group of women coming out behind you.
What do they do?
These chicks just walk on though the door you’re holding, without so much as a smile, and continue on their merry little way.
Whether you’re holding back to let a car get in front of you, or holding the door for the people behind you, personally, I don’t see a difference.
In my opinion, both instances deserve a little appreciation.
Now I’m not saying you need to wave when changing lanes, and there just happens to be a break in traffic. Nobody’s allowing you to get in front of them.
However, when you’re signaling and another driver deliberately slows down to make room for you, for crying out loud, wave!
Yeah, I admit I’m a tad extreme by thanking someone even when I’m 99% positive they weren’t necessarily letting me in, but simply not keeping up with their lanes traffic flow. But by the off chance they were in fact allowing me in, you know what they say, “It’s better to be too nice then not nice enough.”
I’ve never actually heard anyone say that.
The point I have been slowly trying to make is people need to be nicer to other people.
Common courtesy goes a long way. And when I think about polite people, I think of the Midwest (Go Kansas!). People there do a rather good job of this.
Understand though, there are still plenty of poop stains running around in the middle of the country, but overall, we’re a pretty friendly bunch. Midwesterner’s tend to smile more when making eye contact on the street, and it’s not unusual to exchange hello’s.
Last year, I pulled up to a stop light shortly after buying gas, where I so obliviously left the gas door wide open and the lid dangling by the little connector thingy.
A passenger on the back of the motorcycle next to me, got off the bike, actually screwed the lid back on, and closed the door.
Or how about my freshman year in college, when my car broke down around a mile from home and I, of course, left my phone at the house.
Temperatures dipping into the low single digits, and a snow storm that had just passed, walking home in 6+ inches of unshoveled snow on the ground, um, sucked. Royally.
So twenty minutes and two falls later, a guy in a man-y van, pulled up and asked if I needed a ride home.
Don’t worry, you could tell he was a dad and not a Chester the Molester.
Being relatively close to my house at that point, I took him up on the 20 second ride anyway. My iced-over butt couldn’t take it much longer.
I have no idea where I’m going with this…
What I’m getting at is being pleasant doesn’t take too much effort. It’s not like you need to start bowing continuously to the person holding the door for you. A simple “thank you” will suffice.
And for the love of Pete, when you’re stuck in traffic and somebody lets you cut in front of them, don’t be a boob. Put your dadgum hand in the air, and shake it around a little. Your spastic-like movement just might brighten that person’s day.
Do you have a pet peeve? People who smack their gum? A couple making out in public? Someone who says what you’re eating “looks gross.” I’d love to hear them!
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